When I have guests in my house, I am often getting astonished looks from them:"Your baby never cries. You don't even feel that she is at home".
Because it has happened so often, I started thinking to myself: "What I am doing that my baby doesn't cry?". I want to write it down so that other moms and dads can have quiet and happy babies as well!
First of all, I have to admit that with my first child, things were not that perfect. She was crying and I was learning – unconsciously. Things have gone better, for me, from the second child.
Trying to explain to others "why", I analyzed my reaction to my baby:
1. Baby has needs
2. When you need something – you talk, but baby – can't talk, he cries. I understand that crying as a language.
3. I do what she "asks" me to. Today I am one of that mothers who understand what their baby wants.
With the first child, I thought that when the baby cries, she wants to eat. At least, she was never hungry :).
With the second, I learned that things are more complicated than that and that there are more cases than one.
Only with the third child I learned a new fact – babies sometimes cry when they have a full diaper. If you change, they stop crying, as with a magic wand.
(And only with the fourth I found out that there is a pee indicator on the diaper :)… Yes, really!!!).
In any case, it has been all done analytically and academically by Priscilla Dunstan. This video is a must to every "new mom and dad in town": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgkZf6jVdVg
So, these are your signs:
1. Neh – hungry
2. Owh – sleepy
3. Heh – discomfort, uncomfortable position
4. Eair – lower gas
5. Eh – reflex to get air out, burp
And some more tips on your way –
- Talk to your baby. He understands everything, but can't answer.
- Smile to your baby. He will get used to smiling back to you and you will raise up a happier child. He will be unconsciously happy and smile back to everyone he sees.
- When baby starts to crawl, let him crawl all over your house and do not put him in a cot. He is not in a jail! Arrange the house safely before, and let him be free. It is all about planning and arranging!
- When the baby wants to taste something, let him do it – under your control. I allowed my babies to taste almost everything – big stones, doors, floors, dirty tablespoons from the dish washing machine….everything aside from others food from the floor, very small things and things that can endanger her, like knife, etc..I saw how confident it made her feel in this world. When you do the opposite and run after her and grab her all the time from the things she tries to taste, you make her feel like world is nervous place where nothing is allowed. I will add also a citation from the Heidi Markoff site, to reinforce my view:
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The old way of thinking about an infant’s everything-in-mouth habit was that it was a key component of baby development — that mouthing is how babies learn about the world, one lick at a time. And while that’s true, some experts now think there’s even more to mouthing — that a baby might be mouthing the yucky stuff to get healthier (even though he doesn’t know that’s what he’s doing). When your baby picks something up off the ground (the pacifier that’s been hanging out with the dust bunnies behind the sofa, say, or a dead beetle in the backyard) and sticks it in his mouth, the bacteria and viruses he exposes himself to give the immune system a chance to fight them off — and makes your baby stronger.
- When your baby picks something up off the ground (the pacifier that’s been hanging out with the dust bunnies behind the sofa, say, or a dead beetle in the backyard) and sticks it in his mouth, the bacteria and viruses he exposes himself to give the immune system a chance to fight them off — and makes your baby stronger.
- Enjoy your baby – please! Don't be stressed when it is difficult – everything passes. Tomorrow is a new day! You will forget that you haven't slept for a while. He will grow up, in any case, and you will regret for not enjoying him when you had this opportunity.
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